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[...] The Man Who Didn’t Believe in Love [...]

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Sat, 26 Jun 2010 18:19:33 +0000

[...] And if you want to be in a successful and loving relationship… how can you expect your partner to love you at all, if even you find yourself unlovable? [...]

By: Mr. Brite Lite

Mr. Brite Lite — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 07:15:57 +0000

I wish he was right.

By: Giao

Giao — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 07:14:58 +0000

Credit to khoi for referring me to this.

I was struggling with what i guess other people call self discovery, I’m still working on it
but just wanted to say thanks.

Thanks.

By: sui

sui — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 04:17:33 +0000

@Mr. Brite Lite: What did the man “not do wrong”?

@kibberon: Never apologize for rambling.

By: kibberon

kibberon — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 18:18:45 +0000

thank you for the comments recently. I love your writing and your blog. This post made me sad, a little. I think I would really like to believe that love exists, but I realized how broken some of the relationships I have with people are, just because I’ve ceded so much of myself to make people happy, when I know I shouldn’t because if I was myself in the first place, I probably would not be friends with them anyway. I have aways relied on myself, and there are only maybe two people that I rely on besides family, and I rarely see them. It does hurt sometimes not to rely on people. sorry for rambling

By: Mr. Brite Lite

Mr. Brite Lite — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 17:38:23 +0000

the man didn’t do anything wrong… But good story.

By: sui

sui — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 00:58:51 +0000

@Chenxi: Haha… don’t apologize!

I know what you’re talking about, but that’s partly the point.. taking charge of your own life because people won’t do what you expect/want them to. You can control your reactions to this situation– you can ignore the other person, be civil, or, honestly, really try to kick them out… I know it sounds easier than it actually is, and it’s hard to deal with people like that… but I honestly believe in your power to find a way to change this situation! (If you want, you can email me about it… not that I’m a good advice-giver or anything, but I’m a good listener in any case!)

Was this post meant to be positive..? Hrm, more like trying to break down pre-held conceptions: i.e., if I love someone, they should love me back/make me happy. In that case it’s not necessarily positive, but more like a wake-up call.

By: Chenxi

Chenxi — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 00:51:29 +0000

I know this post was meant to be really inspirational and positive, but I just can’t help but dwell on the word “self-centered” and how if you read your comments in the negative light, you see just how terrible some people are. We do what we want and what makes us happy. We cannot force other people to do what we expect them to do. In short, I just have to put up with bitches because I can’t do anything about them and can’t expect them to respect me…

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Either way, I know what you meant by this post. Sorry to add a negative comment. Just couldn’t help it. >_>
Chenxi’s last blog: THE PLANET IS DYING, AMANDA UY

By: fadetoblack

fadetoblack — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:36:15 +0000

Hey
sorry took me so long to write back
My boyfriend= takes most of my pictures to answer your question
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